Her past was like shattered mirror, that had innumerable cracks; but it stood there intact displaying a strong woman that she was, broken at heart and clear at mind; who was otherwise vulnerable. 

I admired her for the way she carried herself – calm, serene, bold, elegant and beautiful in a way and in the simplest of attires that I fell head over heels for her much to her obliviousness.

I encountered ‘n’ number of situations just to look at her, watch her talk, teach, laugh, read and smile, but never did I imagine what lay behind the smile much to the dismay of understanding what lay in store.

I one day mustered the courage, walked up to her and spoke of what was in my heart and she walked away in much shock only to be drawn back into a cocoon, scared and ready to crumble as if love were a nightmare for her.

Unable to understand the reason for her absence, I learnt of her bitter shaken past to realize that I had stepped into a zone that she had recoiled away from, as the smile she carried and cheerfulness was only to put back her past, but never had the courage to let anyone pass through those doors closed to her aching heart.

Abilene Paradox

What is The Abilene Paradox ?
Context : Corporate World.
On a birthday, a family decided to go out for dinner. Husband asked wife, where to go?
Thinking that he likes Gujarati food, she said: “Let’s go to Agashiye – The Terrace Restaurant!”
His son and daughter nodded in agreement. 
On their return, the son remarked, “I wish Papa had taken us to Mainland China, as he loves Chinese food. Or at least to Shere-E-Punjab for the wonderful tandoori chicken.”added his daughter. 
“Yes, I too would have loved to go Mainland China!”,  the man said. 
Wife looked surprised: “But didn’t we all unanimously agree to go to Agashiye,” she asked.
He said sheepishly “I didn’t want you to feel bad.” And both children nodded in agreement. 
Here were four people who of their own volition would not have gone to ‘Agashiye – The Terrace Restaurant, but collectively agreed to go there. 
This also happens in the corporate world. This is the Abilene Paradox. 
Prof Jerry Harvey calls it ‘The Inability to Manage Agreement.’
The Abilene Paradox occurs when a group of people collectively decide on a course of action that is contrary to the preferences of most of the individuals in the group.
Prof Harvey states in his paper ‘The Abilene Paradox’, “Organizations frequently take actions in contradiction to what they really want to do and therefore defeat the very purpose they are trying to achieve”.
This is the inability to manage agreement.
He adds, “The inability to manage agreement, not the inability to manage conflict, is the essential symptom that defines organizations caught in the web of the Abilene Paradox.”
In the corporate world, when the top boss throws an idea, the group immediately agrees. 
This is because everyone in the group thinks he would look stupid if he disagrees. 
Standing out as a lone voice is very embarrassing. This leads the group to decide on ‘yes’ when ‘no’ would have been the personal (and the correct) response of the majority. 
If the top boss always disagrees with rest of group, then the organization will never have group giving honest opinion. 
I love this from Ayn Rand, “If we have an endless number of individual minds who are weak, meek, submissive and impotent. Who renounce their creative supremacy for the sake of the “whole” and accept humbly the ‘whole’s verdict’, we don’t get a collective super-brain. We get only the weak, meek, submissive and impotent collection of minds.”

When to be Silent..??

Be silent – in the heat of anger

Be silent – when you don’t have all the facts

Be silent – when you haven’t verified the facts

Be silent – if your words will offend a weaker person

Be silent – when it is time to listen

Be silent – when you are tempted to make light of holy things

Be silent – when you are tempted to joke about sin

Be silent – if you would be ashamed of your word later

Be silent – if your words would convey the wrong impression

Be silent – if the issue is none of your business

Be silent – when you are tempted to tell an outright lie

Be silent – if your words will damage someone else’s reputation

Be silent – if your words will damage a friendship

Be silent – when you are feeling critical

Be silent – if you can’t say it without screaming

Be silent – if your words will be a poor reflection of your friends and family

Be silent – if you may have to eat your words later

Be silent – if you have already said it more than one time

Be silent – when you are tempted to flatter a wicked person

Be silent – when you are supposed to be working instead


Trust your Senses.. Part 2

I had put up a post on similar lines a few months ago. Compiled a few more as and when something struck my mind or came across it. 

The first post is  here. Hope you all like this one as well.

  1. Everyone have Two Eyes … But No one has the Same View
  2. The most important quality of successful people is their willingness to change
  3. Human beings are very strange. They have ego of their knowledge but, they don’t have knowledge of their ego.
  4. People who judge do not matter. People who matter do not judge.
  5. Alphabet “O” stands for Opportunity which is absent in “Yesterday”, Available only once in “Today” And thrice in “Tomorrow”.
  6. Pain is Unavoidable but, Suffering is Optional..
  7. Never ignore a person who loves and cares for you, because one day you may realize that you’ve lost the moon while counting the stars.
  8. Sometimes life doesn’t give you something you want, not because you don’t deserve it, but because you deserve more.
  9. If the Road is Beautiful then worry About the Destination, but if the Destination is Beautiful, Then Don’t Worry About The Road!
  10. Only messages are not life, but… Our life should be a message to others.




A.A.A.D.D (Just for laughs)

This was forwarded by a close friend and I must say, after a long and hectic day at work, reading this was a relief. 

I don’t now if such a disorder exists in real life or no. Though there are a few instances which we all have faced at some point of time.  Read it all along and enjoy this.


Recently, I was diagnosed with A.A.A.D.D.
Age Activated Attention Deficit Disorder. 😜
This is how it manifests:
I decide to water my garden.
As I turn on the hose in the driveway,
I look over at my car and decide it needs washing. 
As I start toward the garage,
I notice mail on the porch table that
I brought up from the mail box earlier.
I decide to go through the mail before I wash the car. 
I lay my car keys on the table,
put the junk mail in the garbage can under the table,
and notice that the can is full. 
So, I decide to put the bills back
on the table and take out the garbage first.
But then I think,
since I’m going to be near the mailbox
when I take out the garbage anyway,
I may as well pay the bills first.
I take my cheque book off the table,
and see that there is only one cheque left.
My extra cheques are in my desk in the study,
so I go inside the house to my desk where
I find the can of Coke I’d been drinking. 
I’m going to look for my checks,
but first I need to push the Coke aside
so that I don’t accidentally knock it over.
The Coke is getting warm,
and I decide to put it in the refrigerator to keep it cold.
As I head toward the kitchen with the Coke,
a vase of flowers on the counter
catches my eye–they need water.
I put the Coke on the counter and
discover my reading glasses that
I’ve been searching for all morning.
I decide I better put them back on my desk,
but first I’m going to water the flowers.
I set the glasses back down on the counter,
fill a container with water and suddenly spot the TV remote.
Someone left it on the kitchen table.
I realize that tonight when we go to watch TV,
I’ll be looking for the remote,
but I won’t remember that it’s on the kitchen table,
so I decide to put it back in the den where it belongs,
but first I’ll water the flowers.
I pour some water in the flowers,
but quite a bit of it spills on the floor.
So, I set the remote back on the table,
get some towels and wipe up the spill.
Then, I head down the hall trying to
remember what I was planning to do. 
At the end of the day:
the car isn’t washed
the bills aren’t paid
there is a warm can of Coke sitting on the counter
the flowers don’t have enough water,
there is still only 1 cheque in my cheque book,
I can’t find the remote,
I can’t find my glasses,
and I don’t remember what I did with the car keys.
Then, when I try to figure out why nothing got done today,
I’m really baffled because I know I was busy all day,
and I’m really tired.
I realize this is a serious problem,
and I’ll try to get some help for it,
but first I’ll check my e-mail….
Do me a favor.
Forward this message to everyone you know,
because I don’t remember who I’ve sent it to.
Don’t laugh — if this isn’t you yet, your day is coming!!

Movie review: Bahubali – The Conclusion



The tsunami of Bahubali movie franchise has swept the box office across the world again! We all liked the story, direction, visual effects and yes, at the end victory of the hero! It’s a well-knit story of emotions, ethics, action, love and joy of victory of truth.

Bahubali was different is so many ways or rather many ways…not. The day I heard of Bahubali releasing on 28th April, I had decided that this movie would be only on the big screen (I saw Bahubali 1 at home on TV 😦 ). But I guess everything doesn’t happen as per our desires..we had guests so that made me wait followed by houseful bookings which made it even more a waiting period and finally we got tickets for 2 weeks after the release date. Initially it was planned that my in-laws would go for the matinee show and we go for the next while they babysit my toddler, however we all went together and came out with a great movie experience and some very sticky ice cream stains and sticky hands (all thanks to my son for having spilled his ice cream in the dark) 🙂 and yea we came chanting out ‘Bali bali bali bali.. Bahubali’.

This movie definitely deserves a review, though am sure many of us have already given. I still felt I really need to write one.

Spoiler alerts

 The movie is magnanimous in every aspect. The CGI effects, sound quality and the crowd going crazy on Prabhas’s entry were just unbelievable (Rana people envied you for your super-hot body so don’t feel left out). This movie very much reminded me of the Triology – Lord of The Rings, and when I pointed out a few similarities between the two movies especially parts of the warfare and the action sequences my husband very plainly said, “I haven’t watched”. I was utter shocked and rather amused when he said so. I loved the LOTR series.

Bahubali has a fantastic story, set in ancient India it revolves around the story of Shivudu (fondly called Shiva) who scales the waterfalls even after repeatedly been reprimanded by his mother. He follows his instinct to find another land and the yea in search of this beauty that dropped off her face mask in those huge waterfalls. And then the usual part where they both romance around some trees and sing a song and finally get on to the mission to be accomplished after learning about a whole lot of past life and why he has to avenge the death of his father.

The second part of the story revolves around how Devasena is saved from the oppression of Bhalaladeva who keeps her imprisoned. The return of Mahendra Bahubali to save the kingdom of Mahishmati from the reigns of the king Bhalaladeva. The plot is very well pictured on the uprising led by Kattappa and Bahubali and their war on good over evil.

The performances are simply stellar.

  • Prabhas – you indeed are a Bahubali. The vigor and enthusiasm in your performances have left people spell bound. And yea girls have fallen for that mischievous smile.
  • Rana Daggupati – oh.. you definitely make a handsome hulk.. and yea I guess you will be written down in history as the hottest mythological villain with those mean looks and the rage you created.. I so wished that you could have been the good guy
  • Anushka Shetty – not a great fan of her, but this time she’s impressed me both with beauty and performance. Her poise and elegance in carrying the role of Devasena has been given due justice
  • Sathya Raj – “Kattappa” oh you are the old wise man. You even left the prime minister asking why did you kill Bahubali?
  • Shivagami – Rajamouli made the right choice in casting you for the role of Rajmata as Mashishmati’s powerful and respected queen in the movie.

Some very appreciable nuances that I have observed:

  • The X Factor – The first episode of the movie ended with inclusion. Rajamouli chose to take the risk of keeping the audience guessing or rather waiting by creating the X Factor “Why Kattappa killed Bahubali?” Inconclusive end in a movie wasn’t a usual feat the audience is used to, but the power of the story kept the audience glued till the next episode and the record box office revenue endorses the risk of having a X factor.
  • Quality – In the first week of its trailer release Bahubali garnered 350Mn plus views. So you can now imagine the brand value it has created. It’s also known to have taken the longest time to make a movie. This has led to great business and very important great customer experience.
  • Wanna change the rules of the game? – We in the millennial era aren’t used to the historical era. But this movie has taken you back to that generation by deploying the state of the art visual effects and the Sanskrit scripts in the background music and which have uplifted the whole historical era in a rather swift and convincing manner. Want this a perfect turf to showcase your skills and play your game your way?
  • Technology – The technology has played a pivotal role in making the movie a success. Apart from use of best in class technology for visual effects, live 360 coverage of pre-launch event is an epic example of right use of technology for right business purpose!
  • The team – All the characters of Bahubali were just simple stars in their respective domains until Bahubali happened. This was Right Choice of Right People for the Right Thing (too many rights..). Together they have made history and are today enjoying super stardom in the glory of an epic movie which would be spoken about for atleast a decade or even more than that by some generous folks.

So to all my fellow bloggers, though Bahubali has crossed 1000 Crores you may still go ahead and generously donate some more in this kitty as this is definitely a worth watch.

Jai Mahishmati!